How to be more charismatic

How to be more charismatic
How to be more charismatic

Do you ever dream of how nice it would be if people found you easygoing and easy to talk to? These tips for being more charismatic can help make the most introverted person more outgoing!

People think that charisma is something that you're born with, but that's not always true. Whether you're extrovert or introvert, gregarious or enjoy your own company, it's always possible to develop your charisma and become more approachable and likeable. The secret is to concentrate on practising certain traits and behaviours that will make you appear more charming, attractive, and trustworthy.

Charisma is something that people often assume you're born with, but that's not necessarily the case. Whatever your personality type, you can learn to become more likeable and develop your charisma. The key is to focus on specific traits you can practice and apply to your own behaviour to make you seem more magnetic, trustworthy, and influential.

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1. It's not about you: pay attention to others

Being present and paying attention to others is the key to charisma, with self-confidence following close behind. When you lack confidence, you can come across as shy, remote and uninterested in other people, but if you're confident but aren't engaging, you may be perceived as fake or a show-off.

Engaging with others and giving them your complete attention is a crucial skill when you're learning to be more charismatic. So don't keep looking over the shoulder of the person you're talking to, keep your phone in your pocket and don't check your e-mails or start scrolling through social media mid-conversation. You'll quickly undo the good impression you're trying to make!

2. Develop a sense of confidence

Of course, you have to strike a balance. Being able to express yourself confidently is also very important. Having self-confidence is a huge advantage when you're developing your charisma but beware: while you don't want to seem shy and timid, be careful not to appear arrogant. In the end, it's about being yourself and being comfortable in your skin. Dressing nicely, exercising regularly and maintaining a confident posture will help you believe in yourself. And people who believe in themselves are the ones who impress others!

3. Identify your passion

Confident, charismatic people have a driving factor that motivates them. If you don't seem to have a purpose, you might be perceived as just drifting through life. So pick something that you feel passionate about. When you're confident with the concept that you're here on this earth to do something positive with your life, you'll instantly be more charismatic.

4. Master the art of conversation

This point takes us back to the first: you need to be open and pay attention to others. You don't have to be exceptionally witty or brilliant in conversation, but you have to know how to initiate a conversation and keep it going. Then, when you ask questions and listen to the answers, the chat will flow naturally. You might find learning this skill a challenge at first but persevere, and you'll quickly improve.

People who are charismatic are always interested in what others have to say and don't steer the conversation back to talking about themselves. And avoid topics that might make people embarrassed or uncomfortable, and be nice! Others will remember how you made them feel rather than what you had to say.

5. Make eye contact

Making good eye contact is often the most effective way to communicate. Constantly looking away or looking down shows that you're not really concentrating on what the other person is saying. Effective eye contact shows that you're engaged, that you're listening and paying proper attention to the other person. But don't overdo it: when someone stares at you fixedly, it can sometimes be a little unnerving!

6. Mirror the qualities of others

Mirroring the mannerisms of those you're talking to will make you more charismatic. It's almost like magic: match the energy level and physical pose of the person you're with, and you'll see them respond. You don't necessarily have to agree with what they're saying, but just acting the same way will increase your likeability. But you need to get the level of mirroring just right, so experiment to find out what works best.

7. Emulate people you admire

One of the best ways to develop your charisma is to emulate charismatic people you admire. While you might not want to be a Hollywood star, you can learn much from certain celebrities. Note the way they speak and present themselves and emulate the qualities that make them likeable.

A final thought

Everyone can learn to be more charismatic and likeable. The process isn't nearly as challenging as you might think initially; just a few changes can make a huge difference to how people perceive you. The new behaviours you learn will soon be second nature: you'll be more confident, more present, and others will like you more.


Sources:

https://www.verywellmind.com/how-to-boost-your-self-confidence-4163098

https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/self-help/tips-and-support/raise-low-self-esteem/

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